货拉拉司机小记
周末去买了一个书柜，然后叫货拉拉搬回家。不一会一个六十左右的大爷开着小面来了，副驾驶还坐了一个人。我以为是上一单乘客，没想到抬书柜的时候，她还下来帮忙了。我说大爷你这副驾驶谁啊，我一会咋坐车啊？大爷不好意思的说，这人我可不能扔啊，这是我媳妇。
大爷解释到他怕媳妇一个人无聊，偶尔拉货的时候让媳妇出来透透风。大妈尴尬的笑了，然后我看车里还有个小沙发，我说你车里还有个雅座，我坐沙发上吧。车开了，大爷给我聊天小伙子哪里人啊，我说山东的，然后又说菏泽的。他说咱们老乡啊，我是丰县的咱们挨的很近。
我迟疑了一下，说丰县又是哪里的？他说是徐州的，归江苏。我随即来了一句，啊，是生了八个孩子的那个丰县吗？然后大爷说对。然后大妈又说因为八个孩子，县里很多干部被免了，整整十七个呢。我说是啊，这事老大了都惊动党中央了。
大爷说其实这事搞的不对，不该把男人抓起来，也不该把女人送进精神病院。只因为在网上曝光了，人家一家子全散了，孩子也没有人照料了，孩子送到亲戚家了估计更难养了。我说，大爷这事吧涉及到拐卖妇女，主要是违法了。
大爷：哼，就这事我都和我自己亲儿子抬杠，我儿子说花钱买女人不对，我说现在这社会哪个结婚不是买来的？这么贵的彩礼，本质上和花钱买媳妇有什么区别？大爷说完，我一时哑口无言。
大爷又举了一个例子，说他村有一户因为太穷也把自己的女儿也卖给外地了，说现在过的也挺好，男人也疼她，现在都当奶奶了，膝下现在很多孙子。我想了想他说的话，又看了看副驾驶的大妈，站在大爷的角度，这个世界或许就是这样的。
或许他也是对的。
The shadow of cave
How unfortunate that a woman who has been trafficked is forced to bear children and a lock around her neck. If there’s anything more unfortunate than that, it’s the matter that it’s become taboo to talk about it.
We would rather concentrate on the athletes in the Winter Olympics than on the woman around us who suffer injustice. If the lock around a woman’s neck has no connection to you and me, what connection does the medal around a champion’s neck have to us?
Ordinary people make up the majority of modern society. Ordinary people’s fates are more likely to overlap with ours than celebrity’s fates. We can’t truly feel unless it happens to us.
We are easy to be believed and easy to be forgotten. We are frequently awakened and trapped again. We are still live in Plato’s cave, and the shadow in the darkness isn’t the entirety of this world.
The locked woman
After four official statements were issued to the locked woman in Fengxian, the masses still questioned the identity of the woman. Yesterday, Jiangsu Province had to issue a new statement to investigate, from Fengxian to Xuzhou and then to Jiangsu, What makes it so difficult to deal with? It takes longer to debunk a lie with another lie than to discover the truth.
“We know they’re lying, they know they’re lying, they know we know they’re lying, and we know they know we know they’re lying, but they’re still lying,” says one remark circulating on the internet. Isn’t this a ridiculous situation?
The credibility that is no longer believed can still fulfill its political role, even if it seems flawed. Everyone receives what they want via it, then it is still functional and well-functioning, which is the true nature of ideology. In some ways, this type of ideology is much more terrifying because it is no longer the deliberate lying of a few, there is an open lie that everyone tacitly defends together.
Naked lies no longer serve as dream generators but are still allow each individual to continue to live in a fictitious world where everyone is pretending to sleep. From another perspective, we believe we are rescuing the locked woman, in reality, she is rescuing us.
About Note
I believe I am a tool seeker to the extreme, particularly when it comes to recording things. I have tried many note-taking tools and they are called divine artifacts. such as ‘Notion’, ‘Obsidian’,’Roam Research’.
Then I realized I was wasting too much time on learning tools, and after rethinking, I decided to give up the note form and return to the note source. It is better to quietly write a note than to pursue a perfect note-taking tool.
I take notes when I study and write down my daily life. Is it meaningful to do so? It makes sense to me that it is using the output to force input.
If I don’t do anything for an entire day, there will be nothing to remember, and I will realize I need to do something. Taking notes will help me in remembering what I accomplished during the day and will serve as a reminder to quit doing nothing every day.
Baby's name
The ancients said that give a child a good name better than give him a thousand gold.
I have recently seen a lot of new baby names on Douyin, with a lot of likes and comments. Like the names in romance novels(e.g., “左柚”, “宋屿安”, “但子昂”).
I feel that the name of a romance novel will be popular by the next generation of parents, but it is best not to take the kind of the name of GuoJingMing novel “<Fantasy City>“.
Each historical stage has its popular name. The first two years were “子轩”, “子涵”, “诗涵”, “梓涵”, Before that, it was “建国”, “抗美”, “援朝”.
I like the names of the Republic of China and Pre-Qin eras. The names in ci of Chu and The Book of poetry also seem to be popular and cultural.
I think a very earthy and vulgar name is also a good name, the name hidden in the sea of people can better protect us.
Boys or girls
I sometimes ask myself whether I like boys or girls. I feel like I have risen to the philosophical level that it’s both great.
I found Xuan, consciously or unconsciously, reveals that she likes boys. Although she didn’t say it clearly, I can read her heart. So I also kind of hope it’s a boy because I don’t want to see the downcast of Xuan.
Boys can always accompany themselves to old age. But don’t drift away from home as I did; it will make me feel that boys can’t accompany us forever.
宗教信仰
宗教信仰是人们对其中某个体系的共识和崇敬。一些信仰团体，尤其一些新兴宗教，可能会被人给定性为“邪教”；而一些学者更认为“邪教”一词是对于具有不同教条和仪式的团体的人身攻击；所谓的“邪教”，其实指的就是“我不喜欢的宗教”。马克思主义的观点认为，当社会发展到共产主义，宗教将会消失。
网络暴力
当孙海洋找到被拐多年孩子孙卓的时候，巨大的流量，让更多的孩子找到了自己的亲生父母。包括刘学州，遗书里也是说受到孙叔叔的影响，勇敢的去寻找自己的亲生父母。然而结局却是遭到亲生父母的二次抛弃，加上巨大的网络暴力，导致了刘学州的轻生。
当大家转过头来，开始谴责网络暴力的时候，恰恰也在进行另外一种网络暴力。我认为网络暴力不仅仅是恶语伤人，人性中的温暖也是一种暴力。当网友疯狂的在孙卓评论下面刷美好祝愿的时候，当网友为刘学州轻生感到悲痛悼念送花的时候，这是人性中光辉的一面，同时也是一种光辉的暴力。
因为孙卓的评论让本不应该认亲的人，可能选择了寻找亲生父母。而给刘学州送花的人让本应该团圆的孩子，可能选择了退缩。